A short speech I gave at the training workshop for Kuala Lumpur Speakers Club.
Have you heard of the musical notes
Do re me fa so
No No No No No………
I want you to join me to chant this mantra. Chant after me:
No No No No No…….
Thank you. Can you feel the sound resonate in your body?
Chanting is an ancient form of sound healing using sounds to enter our body to bring about positive change.
This peace mantra I created is generated by one single sound from one single word. The word is ″NO″. NO. No, as in when my good looking neighbour who looks like Tom Cruise asks me, “Hey Kaysha , can you come over to my house tonight … and help me take my dog for a walk”
I say, “ No. No Thanks.”
No is a word for rejection and noncompliance. No is the ultimate cure for the disease called ″Desire to say Yes″ aka “People Pleasing.”
Let’s take a quick inventory.
Are you buried under an endless to-do list? Check!
Are you constantly worried what others think? Your mum? You sister? Your sister in law? Your neighbour? Even Your neighbours pet ? Check!!
Do you feel stressed and burnt out a lot and suffer from frequent headaches? If you do, you are having the symptoms of this disease.
It is a very common problem.
Studies have also shown that most people are infected with this disease if they come into close contact with
three kinds of people.
The first type are called the Lucy Lollipops. A Lucy lollipop is someone who sugarcoats her words and asks you to do things for her. They are persuasive people, more persuasive than orange looking Donald Trump
who despite his lack of campaign organisation, managed to get white working class voters in large numbers to vote for him to become the president of united states. Lucy lollipops can get you to do anything for them, even at the expense of your convenience and comfort. Common names for them are – emotional blackmailers, gaslighters and manipulators.
“Kaysha, you are the most wonderful person on Earth. Pretty please can you help me to finish the presentation , I need to rush home early to meet my new boyfriend. I will buy you lunch at Nobu soon, okay? Just once, just help me, please … please …″
What are you going to do? You must chant the peace mantra immediately.
So let’s chant – ″No no no no no,″ and then say, ″I know i am sweet and I am really excited about your new boyfriend and I am a really sucker for a free Japanese meal but erm sorry, NO, I cannot help you.″
The second types are known as the Negative Nancys. These people are so negative that when they walk on the streets, they get chased by dogs and even birds like to poop on them, though some people think that’s good luck . When you meet a Negative Nancy, she will pour out her sorrows onto you like a broken tap until you are flooded with her misery, like the overflowed roads of KL recently.
Do not try to be a hero or Mother Teresa and go, ″Oh, poor you, it is so sad.″ Blah! blah ! blah!
Don′t do that. If you do, you′ll get sucked into her tornado of negative energy that takes you from compassion to depression.
So, what are you going to do to repel the Negative Nancy ?
You must chant the peace mantra- “ No no no no no,″ and then say, ″I am no fengshui master, and really I do not give away free advice. Here’s my card if you need some life coaching !
The third type of people are the Busy Body Bettys . These are people who come to you with business proposals and moneymaking opportunities that you find hard to resist. They might ask you to invest in some money scheme or they will rope you into your some business proposition that gives you cash returns monthly or they could simply be friends with businesses who know you are rich and bored and want to sell you their new shiny deal.
Some beauty potion (emphasising you need to buck up as the creases are showing ) , some diet shake ( to reinforce that they feel you are getting too healthy and heavy) or some body stifling corset that promises to bring out your curves and practically cause you to feel like you are having a heart attack because you can’t breathe wearing that body hugging object wrapped around ur chest and tummy !
Well, these deals don’t work 99 percent of the time and the other one percent of the time, they aren’t even worth your time!
If you let these Busybody Betty’s busy their ways into your minds you up you′ll end up getting financially slaughtered like sheep to be sacrificed or end up simply with a storeroom full of junk you hardly use.
So when you meet a Busybody Betty, what do u say ? Yes, I think you have got it!
NO No No, No, No!
Then you′ll say: ″No thanks, I am already enjoying unlimited wealth and abundance! And my husband likes me with my wrinkles, love handles and curves! “ and so do I.
Ladies I hope you′ve realised by now that the stress level in your life is determined by the people around you.
A study done found that when people are stressed they release a chemical that can be inhaled by those around them, causing others to become more anxious, as well.
This means we can breathe in stress the same way we breathe in secondhand smoke. Stress is contagious.
Look around you. Are there too many Lucy Lollipops, Negative Nancys, and Busybody Bettys? Are you hanging around with problematic people? If so, who are they? Can you stay away from them?
Learn the peace mantra and remember to say no to these people who bring you more pain than gain. I assure you will find life is more peaceful.
Learn To Say No today! I leave you with my peace mantra.
No No no no no………….