I am sure all of you have heard of John Gray’s book – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. So it is a stated fact that men and women are inherently different. But in reality, every human is different on a core soul level regardless of our genders. What do I mean by that? Read on…
We are all beings of love and we all come from the same source. At the same time – we are all different because we are blessed with different powers. This innate inherent ability defines who we are.
All souls have different elemental expects, This is the most important factor of a soul’s blueprint.We need to know our elemental factor because this is how we are designed to receive energy force, thus if we are in our divine form, we can receive it in abundance.
Thus when we make aligned choices – choices which are right for our elemental factor – we thrive and our lives are effortless
When we make unaligned choices – choices not right for our elemental factor – we live in lack and deprivation.
We need maximum energy force for us to be in our most abundant nature.If we aren’t made of that element, we can’t receive the energy force designed for us.
There are 8 different elemental types. I have used the analogy of the Greek gods to describe the traits.
Ares is the Greek god of war. He often represents the physical or violent and untamed aspect of war. He embodied the physical valour necessary for success in war, he was a dangerous force, overwhelming, insatiable in battle, destructive, and man-slaughtering.
So in line with this definition from Wikipedia, Ares are fire beings – they are extremely freedom lovers.They can’t sit still and usually can’t wait for others. They are not great team players as they believe they need to work on things ASAP. Thus they inevitably do things first and become leaders naturally. Ares do better single or like leading in relationships. Thus they don’t do well in partnerships. They are usually the controllers in the relationship and like things to be their way. The like innovating new and exciting ideas and rules in the relationships – just because they like changes all the time. They love their independence and when controlled by their partner or feel obligated, they will become misaligned. This is usually the hardest elemental type to get along.
I have many Ares clients and their biggest problem in relationships is that their partners are too controlling. They become totally dysfunctional when controlled and they feel obligated. They need a partner who understands their need for freedom and their independent nature. They love money – it is their gateway to financial freedom.
If you think you are an Ares, ask yourself this
- Is freedom the most important thing in my life?
- Does obligation and rules make me feel stifled?
- Do I like to decide things in the relationship all the time ?
Hermes was one of the 12 Olympian Gods and was god of trade, thieves, travelers, sports, athletes, and border crossings, guide to the Underworld. He was the second youngest Olympian god and was the son of ZEUS and Maia, one of the seven Pleiades and daughter of the Titan Atlas.
As the god of boundaries and transitions, Hermes was known to be quick and cunning and had the ability to freely move between the mortal and divine worlds. It is this skill that made him a luck-bringing messenger to the gods and intercessor between mortals and the divine.
Hermes elemental types are manifestors. They love physical experiences and like building real things- real estate, brands, finances, wealth, their body and health. They love building at the physical level and easily attract money when they are aligned. They love travelling and adventure and focus a lot on looks and physical body appearances.
They are extroverts and like meeting new people and enjoy new experiences. People feel they are greedy because they keep chasing wealth- but for them its because they love brand new experiences all the time. They need to keep their body active and physical all the time else they get emotional and unhappy,
They are usually not good at traditional school system, they are however good at sports and outdoor play and are constantly chasing the next high. They sometimes get bored in their relationships if they don’t feel the excitement or when things start getting monotonous. They are extremely jealous lovers – very suspicious as well. Hermes types probably are the best in sex and fully enjoy the experience of love making.
They however cant express their emotions all and get stuck in the intensity of emotional life, trying to get back into their bodies but don’t know what to do.
So one of my clients partner is a Hermes type. When they are having issues, which is usually because he cant express his emotions to her. Best way they get over it – make up sex! That usually gets his energies rebalanced. Also a boys’ night out or some alone time at the gym- will help him feel more recharged! Don’t ask me why! That’s just how these types are made.
They are addicted to extreme physical sensation and simply love dangerous sports like skydiving and rock climbing. When extremely dysfunctional and they feel emotional they rely on substance abuse- they use drugs and drinking to drown their emotions. Else they will probably cheat – to get over their emotional stress – which can be detrimental to the relationship
One of the most unemotional types of people – just give them sex and food – they are happy. If you need to ‘talk’ – Hermes types aren’t the right one for you.
Aphrodites is an ancient Greek goddess associated with love , beauty , pleasure, passion and procreation.She is identified with the planet Venus. Despite this marriage to Hephaestus, Aphrodite had many lovers. Her lovers include both gods and men – including the god ARES and the mortal Anchises.
Aphrodites – are beings of divine love. They are natural healers and extremely good at being at relationships – most Aphrodites have the best relationships because they are loving, accepting not judgmental and giving. They hold a sacred space for others by simply sitting and listening to them so the person feels integrated, loved and healed. They are excellent listeners and give their partners space to vent.
They love having interdependent relationships- – which mean they love taking care of people and being taken care of as well. They know how to manage people well and are very hospitable and caring.
My divine love clients are the most vulnerable in their relationships. They love giving a lot to their partners – but they do expect, and that’s their biggest drawback. Because their expectations aren’t met – they give more and more until they are depleted. The lack of support from others makes them feel unappreciated. They need to be more conditional with people and they need to learn how to say no, something they can’t do.
This often leads to martydom- they come to me usually feeling very resentful and sorry for themselves. They are aware they are over giving in the relationship but its their badge of honour and they seem to cause their own victimisation but feel helpless – they simply abdicate responsibility about it and say“i don’t know how”.
Kaylene my client whose an Aphrodite keeps taking Melvin back despite the way he treats her again and again. Jillian gives a lot in her relationship and though she often feels bad about it – she takes pride in being the victim. Nora can’t ever say No, she feels bad being assertive and demanding what she wants in the relationship. All these negative habits are self destructive and dysfunctional. When Aphrodites become misaligned, they reach such a level of emotional depletion.
Demeter is the goddess of the harvest and agriculture, presiding over grains and the fertility of the earth.Her name consists of two parts, the second of which (-meter) is almost invariably linked with the meaning “mother,” which conveniently fits with Demeter’s role as a mother-goddess.Demeter is usually portrayed as a fully-clothed and matronly-looking woman, either enthroned and regally seated or proudly standing with an extended hand. Sometimes she is depicted riding a chariot containing her daughter Persephone, who is almost always in her vicinity.
These types nurturing, compassionate and community minded. They are tolerant and give unconditionally in the relationship. These types cant ever be alone, they constantly need a sense of belonging to community. You would find Demeter types part of many organisations and they would probably be the ones organising family get togethers.This doesn’t mean they are extroverts. They are iIntroverted mostly and loyal to their tribe. They usually put themselves last and tend to love pleasing people around them – they always need to be around people and always give a lot of themselves in relationships
They expect people to reciprocate and when they don’t, they get disappointed, fee isolated and left out, lose their sense of self and feel unloved.
I have a Demeter client married to an Ares – and their relationship is the most doomed! She loved being around him and it stiles him – he loves his independence and freedom and becomes claustrophobic when she’s planned the whole day with family activities. She tends to all his needs all the time and though she feels bad about his behaviour she can’t walk away – that’s what Demeters are like they stay in toxic relationships despite being unhappy. They are faultlessly loyal to the people they love and always give away more than you are getting.
My client does feel depleted and has lost track of her own divine experience while caring about her partner – that’s why sessions with me were so important to clear her past misalignments – now she needs to start drawing healthy boundaries to focus her energies on herself. Basically learning to be loyal to herself first.
Apollos are next. Apollo is one of the most complex and important gods, and is the god of many things, including: music, poetry, art, oracles, archery, plague, medicine, sun, light and knowledge. Both medicine and healing are associated with Apollo and were thought to sometimes be mediated through his son, Asclepius. However, Apollo could also bring ill-health and deadly plague.Apollo also became associated with dominion over colonists, and as the patron defender of herds and flocks.
Apollos are also known also as exactors. They are deeply personal people and highly intuitive. They are often drawn to photography and arts and are spiritual warriors. Truth is very strong element of their lives and their gift is seeing people for who they are- they have extremely high bullshit radars and keen observation skills. They usually tell people things as they see it – they are blunt and unrefined speakers.
They are not diplomatic at all and thus get into trouble. My client’s partner is an Apollo – he simply tells her she’s looking fat! And thus gets into trouble with her for his frankness – well she probably needed to know but because he’s got no filter, it comes across as rude. He obviously doesn’t know how to sugar coat things and flatter her.
He’s also very judgemental and if you don’t listen to what he’s saying, he will tell you what you want hear and that will make them dysfunctional. They will become silent and STOP TALKING. They used to not talk for weeks. Once it got so bad, he became belligerent. The arguments became now BEING RIGHT and not being truthful or authentic anymore. He felt extremely judged, rigid and aggressive and will judged, rigid and aggressive and fight at any cost to prove he is right.
Apollos aren’t they easiest of people to live with – they tend to stifle a lot of the elemental types with their fairness and blunt manner.
Iris was the goddess of the rainbow and the messenger of the Olympian gods. She was often described as the handmaiden and personal messenger of Hera. Iris was a goddess of sea and sky and appears only as an errand-running messenger. Her name contains a double meaning, being connected with both the Greek word iris “the rainbow” and eiris “messenger.” Iris types are called the Conveyors. They talk a lot and talk things through all the time. They are voracious readers and love to learn all the time. Their words are very creative and they have very strong opinions about things. They are generally experts in communication and languages and they can help and inspire others with their written or spoken words – thus they make excellent teachers, trainers, authors and marketers. They must however use their personal expertise and experiences in their words to be authentic.
Iris clients usually love communicating in the relationship and are very expressive – through their messages or love letters. Sometimes it gets them into trouble as they end up saying things that may upset their partners. Aldo if their words fall on deaf ears they tend to get dysfunctional and fall into inauthenticity and keep to themselves and remain unheard. This will become very lethal – as they get so stuck in the relationship and start disconnecting.
Zeus was the first of the GODS and a very imposing figure. He was referred to as the “Father of Gods and men”, he is a sky god who controls lightning (often using it as a weapon) and thunder.
These elemental types are known as regulators. They are experts in being in balance and blend form and functionality together. They are practical as well as romantic – highly creative and artistic as well as orderly and organised. They dress and accessorise and have a good sense of aesthetics. They love planning and managing things.
My client – Saija is a typical Zeus type. She looks planning all their family holidays and weekend activities to the brim. She love posting beautiful family pictures on facebook – even though she and Sam keep fighting and don’t get along. Sam on the other hand is an Ares – he hates the control and pretence of perfection.
One thing Saija simply hates is drama. She dislikes it so much that she will do whatever it takes to keep things around them happy and looking perfect. She loves to micromanage allsituations in their life – from what’s the menu to where they are dining or where they will for their holidays. She doesn’t enjoy unexpected changes and loves to control everything.
When she and Sam fight – which is bound to happen she tries her best to avoid it lest it creates more drama. She tries accommodating Sam and sometimes loses herself in the relationship. She isn’t happy in her relationship and wants to leave BUT to keep appearances she pretends to be happy as there is excessive focus on appearance and perfection.
Athena is a very important goddess of many things. She is goddess of wisdom, courage, inspiration, civilisation, law and justice, strategic warfare, mathematics, strength, strategy, the arts, crafts, and skill. She is known most specifically for her strategic skill in warfare and is often portrayed as companion of heroes and is the patron goddess of heroic endeavour. •
Athenas are also called sages. They have infinite wisdom. They are thoughtful people, highly logical and principled. They make excellent listeners and give amazing succinct advice to their partners as for them its part of common sense. They don’t know or think they are gifted and wise. They are very rational, sensible, intelligent and simple people and make good decisions for both. They don’t talk much.
My Athena client tends to have a superiority complex – she thinks her partner isn’t as smart as her – this sometimes leads to self esteem issues in their relationship and her partner feels undervalued. Also she sometimes mocks him in front of people. She can’t stand his irrationality
She also doesn’t like drama. In her case her partner gets very emotional and she is always trying to see things logically. She becomes fed up and loses her patience and her ability to connect with him then – she gets angry and intolerant and arrogant. She then purposely puts him down and makes him feel bad about himself.
It is so important to know who you are at core level. This is the best way to know your partner – it works knowing your divine gifts – who you are at elemental level- and if you knows your partner’s and your quirks – it helps dealing with the relationship better..